Children who have intrusive parents are pre-disposed to depression and anxiety or self-criticism. Ryan Hong, an assistant at the Singapore University, believes that children who are exposed to intrusive parenting feel that they are never good enough.
The study lasted for five years, and it was conducted with students from primary schools in Singapore. When parents asked children to achieve more and outdo themselves, children became more critical of themselves.
During the experiment, more parents took control of a puzzle their child was supposed to fit by themselves. In a society which prizes academic excellence over many other things, as is the case in Singapore, children who have demanding parents can become stressed out and with low self-esteem.
The study concluded that parents should be careful not to focus solely on good grades for children. Sometimes, parents who interfere with the child’s behavior may obtain a result opposite from what they desire.
Conductors of the study advised parents to replace questions like “Did you get maximum grades for your test?” with questions such as “How did you do?” which place less pressure on the child.
In total, 265 children, aged 7, from 10 schools underwent the study.
Maladaptive perfectionism is a serious condition. It occurs when children and young people are not encouraged positively, but instead feel pressured to succeed. This way, they adapt by looking down on themselves, not believing in their forces and in the end this leads to depression, and in extreme cases suicidal behavior.
This type of behavior affects children’s well-being by making them more prone to leading an insecure life. In the end, adults affected by perfectionism in childhood have unsatisfying lives, earn less and cannot always adapt to the environment.
Previous research also showed that supportive environments lead to better results for children. Those who got encouragements and positive attention from parents often have higher incomes are happier and a stronger mindset when they grow up.
In Asian countries, such as Hong Kong, China or Singapore, the local culture encourages people to overwork and overachieve. Children are not spared of this unrealistic target behavior as a consequence of intrusive parenting. There is increased pressure on them to do very good when it comes to academic performances.
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